Tempered by Fire
Most people like to think that anger is a thing that fires off without warning. The notion allows us to believe that we have little control over our own reactions in an infuriating situation, when in reality we are the only ones with any power at all. It’s not unlike lighting a match; it seems like it sparks 0 to 100 in nothing flat, but really you had to pull it from the book. You touched it to the sandpaper and heard that raspy sound it makes before the ‘whoosh’ sound as the flame appears. What I’m saying is, you got pissed off (pulled the match) and then you chose to react (whoosh!). We all boil at different degrees, but we can be careful about how much we stoke the fire.