The Gratitude of Doing Hard Stuff… TToT

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This regrouping thing is tougher than it looks, but then I knew it would be. My goal this evening is to make a list of a few categories. I am normally a very proactive individual, but it seems to be eluding me… hopefully a list will help me organize and motivate me to move on.

1.I am grateful for the help to reach the realization that this is a big piece of what I need to do right now.

2.Also grateful for figuring out a few creative solutions.

3. Grateful for taking the first step today… it was a biggie. I have been thinking about it for months and finally decided it was time.

4. That I can feel secure about taking significant steps, because I have spent enough ( maybe too much) time making sure they are do-able.

5. I haven’t run my specific plans past anyone yet, but I have asked for help. I am often accused of not asking. I’m glad I can do that more than I ever have. I have really sucked at that in the past . I’m still not great at it…not even good at it.

6. It’s not because I don’t know that I can depend on support from those I trust. I can. In a big way and for that too I am grateful.

7. Knowing all too intimately that the things in life that really matter are fleeting has led me to learn acceptance and patience. That although there are not answers for everything in this lifetime that I can accept that I don’t need them. I want them, yes. But need, no.

8.That I don’t have to think everything is of the caliber as the issues inferred in #7. For instance my phone is possessed… it needs a priest. It’s not gonna change the course of my life, so I’m not gonna get too uptight about it. There was a time when my phone was causing me grief, but that was because someone was ripping me off… now it just needs a full-on exorcism…not the same caliber problem, and nothing I need to blow an aneurysm about.

9. Although there are times in all our lives, mine no different when I can feel really alone. I am surrounded by really good people…

10. …and one splediferous old mutt. download (5)

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38 thoughts on “The Gratitude of Doing Hard Stuff… TToT”

  4. It is ridiculous that we have to learn how to ask for help. I am always so grateful when someone asks me for help, so why would I think that my friends wouldn’t be grateful when I do? Ask away.
    You know what else is hard? Keeping things in perspective. I’m glad you aren’t letting this gone-on-waaaaaaaaay-too-long phone problem get to you too badly.
    Good for you, taking that first, big step. Whatever that step might be. 🙂

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    1. I know what you mean. I am always willing and actually grateful to be asked for help. So reason would tell me…. The phone is completely dead… why is something that costs so much made to last only two years? So we have to buy another one! I cant have a land line out here where I am so I need the cell but I would let it go otherwise.

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  6. I am not always great at asking for help from others either. It is important to know how to do it without feeling like a bother. I can also understand the phone possession and hope that works itself out too, but things are fleeting, as you say.
    🙂

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  7. Asking for help can be such a challenge, it’s always good to know there are people out there who have your back though.

    A good and loyal dog really does enrich our lives don’t they?

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  9. I don’t know why it is so hard, but it is — asking for help.
    Except if you’re in a public bathroom and you run out of toilet paper then I’m all about asking for help.
    No one wants a mud butt 🙂
    You’re awesome and you should know that and there are always people who are willing to help out no matter what. Unless you need a loan for a million dollars to start up an ant farm…then you’re on your own probably.
    Plus Doug would not approve of said ant farm.I know my dog wouldn’t xoxo

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  10. I have a very difficult time asking for help, as well. You have outlined some beginning steps that seem to set up the perspective for the regroup. I still get upset about little things, it takes time to stop and look at the big picture. It’s giving up control, I think. Anyway, yay you, with Doug at your side. You always have my support.

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    1. Thanks Val, That control thing is one of my biggest issues. Especially when it seems to keep getting taken from me… maybe someone is trying to tell me something?

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  12. I can relate to finding it difficult to ask for help… I tend to hide when struggling, I love helping others though, and there are benefits for both parties in doing so I find…supporting others can be therapeutic.

    Christine made me think with her comment… ( It is ridiculous that we have to learn how to ask for help. I am always so grateful when someone asks me for help, so why would I think that my friends wouldn’t be grateful when I do?”) …

    Sensible thoughts… why do I assume that I’m a burden if I ask for help… I never for a minute feel burdened when the boots on the other foot… something that needs working on I think 🙂

    Great post Ivy… Doug is gorgeous… wishing you a good week x

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  13. All the best wishes for your plans, Ivy. It sounds like something really deep and important, so all my thoughts to you for success in every regard!

    Maybe your phone needs some physical or mental abuse. My dad used to have a possessed printer, and whenever it got kicked and insulted, it would work 🙂

    Give the little doggie a big hug from us 🙂

    Enjoy your week, Ivy & Doug!

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    1. woof! That was Doug on the recieving end of a big hug… He says thanks! My phone needs a viking funeral… you know… on fire and then sink it in a lake!

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  14. I’m in, too, if you need someone. Anyone. I am curious about your reorganization and hope you will share when the time is right.
    My phone refuses to hold a charge. The lock button works about 10% of the time. And the words on it keep getting smaller and smaller…. I am upgrading when school starts, and when that happens, I will join you in a Viking funeral.

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    1. sure . Its three fold… on a few fronts… I have to come to some terms with losses, health and make some work related changes. I will work it out gradually and let ya know. My stupid phone is really an inconvenience . I wont have another until later in the week. I couldnt even make a call this morning when I really needed to… luckily there is a way to use skype as a regular phone because we cant even get a land line out here.

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  15. I don’t ask for help very often either but in the last 6 months I have been. When I found a friend that was willing to help me because she wanted to it was so amazing! I haven’t even know her very long but our hearts have. Wishing you the best with your reorganization. I know for me that’s never an easy task, but it’s the effort in actually making it happen that are the greatest accomplishment. 😊

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  16. I suck at asking for help. I’m glad you’re finding a way to do so and I am very willing to help if there’s anything I can do. By the way, that stinks about your phone 😦 but good for you for keeping it in perspective!! I tend to freak out about stuff like that.

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